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Too many people misuse terms like anxiety disorder, panic attacks, OCD, and phobias, it's starting to tick me off. Everybody feels an amount of fear and discomfort doing certain tasks, everybody performs odd rituals or behaviors at some point, yet these people use it so casually, such that I nor others cannot take these seriously anymore; I cannot distinguish which one's are serious and which one's are from whining. 

I pretty much call bullsh** on "phobias" people claim to have on random things these days. Most of them are not even clinical phobias, and as far I understand things like "phobias of telephones" is seriously a symptom to a much bigger problem, like social anxiety. I am incredibly afraid of making/taking phone calls, it causes me to lose half my day and endless coldsweat, but I highly doubt I have a phobia of it. Labeling it just feels like an excuse to not deal with and further investigate your issue, and in a many cases, labeling is used for being a special snowflake. 

Actually, I just call bullsh** on a lot of recent labeling, labels other than illnesses but I will not specify them due to it being a sensitive topic. People try too hard to give a special name for themselves, when rest of the population is actually pretty much the same one way or another. They fail to notice these small details in everybody else, when it's sometimes, but not always, present in a different group of people. I see this as a response to feeling of underappreciated, which under circumstances I can understand, but there's a point where it's just plain stupid and honestly, purely from the ignorance of the world around you. 

No, feeling uncomfortable in a social situation doesn't necessarily mean you have anxiety disorder, being hyper sometimes doesn't make you ADHD, having mood swings doesn't mean you have bipolar, being a perfectionist doesn't mean you have an OCD, being sad doesn't mean you have depression, having inappropriate emotions in a serious situation doesn't mean you are emotionless, feeling great amount of discomfort or dislike doesn't mean it's a phobia, panicking does not mean it's a panic attack, having urges to do stupid crap doesn't mean you have a tic, watching horror and gore movies without feeling affected doesn't mean you are psychotic. Are people this incapable of handling normal amount of stress such that they have to label everything? If you are concerned, get a proper diagnosis by a doctor, instead of looking up quizzes and articles from the interwebs, making assumptions by yourself without objectively verifying it with enough resources, switching on your "victim mentality" to put blames on everything else but your own self. 

Granted, I also had a phase where I thought I had phobia of phones, anger management issues, abandonment issues, schizophrenia, insomnia, psychosis, apathy, whatever you name it, and many phases where I avoided admitting my faulty behaviors and judgment from lack of taking responsibilities, willingness, and just common sense. 

I mean, blaming on things and people, or coming up with random labels to sloppily paint over your issues does nothing in the long run. As much you may emotionally require it, what would putting blames going to do? The situation's not going to fix itself, and it's your job to do what you can to resolve your part. What would giving yourself hundreds of labels going to do if you don't even know your real problems? And what do I mean by label? Covering yourself with stickers for the rest of the world to see; you come up with as many as you can think of. It rarely helps you solve them, and honestly, just makes it sound a lot worse and overwhelming to yourself, unless you need these labels purely for diagnostic reasons and for doctors and people to know how to help you. Even then you can't expect people to automatically tend to your needs and be nice to you. If you want help, then get it yourself, don't use it as a means of manipulation or pity. 

Humans really do anything to throw pity parties and gain attention, and it saddens me that this end up shunning the people with actual problems. I know at some point everybody grows up, but the process is slow and having to watch this pathetic charade happen in and out just pains me, and all I can do is ...be patient, let them be, offer as much advice as I am qualified for (which is not a lot), try to ignore them and move on. I am sure I am not the only person wanting to punch the sh** out of stupid people. God, I wish I can make clones of these people, break their egos and beliefs into shatters and bitch slap the fu**ing sense out of them over and over. 

However I know it's not my place to "fix" people; I can't stop people from using words like cancer and rape in funny contexts or stop them from behaviors that encourages the association of pity party to something serious. All I can do is accept that this is how people grow up, and let higher, more qualified powers to take care of them instead; that would be a more mature, more healthy thing to do for myself. It's just that people abusing the terms like stickers and making it diverge away from what's actually serious bothers me and affects me at the same time. What if I said I had depression, but people assume I am just "sad" and will get over it or I am making an excuse? What if a friend said she has OCD, but people think it's funny to mess around? What if somebody has a phobia, and nobody takes him seriously until he vomits and passes out? What about people calling somebody bipolar just a "moody bitch"? I mean, this all could result from people naturally just not knowing about the disorder or illness, as they are not professionals. Perhaps I am particularly afraid of this happening and I am getting rather sensitive towards people misusing the words, because it's one thing to be invalidated, it's another to be invalidated for something serious. It could be totally uncorrelated, but it's still annoying to hear people diagnose themselves million things and make rude humors out of them, isn't it? 

Yes, people are annoying, but there's not much I can do about it, except encourage education and support educative communities, I guess. 
This isn't a preach, this isn't a PSA. It's just a rant to help organize my thoughts. There are way better things to do then grit my teeth for stupid things people do and wanting them dead. 
Perhaps I might get back to it when I can phrase it better or make better sense out of it. But I am done with ranting for now. 



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AntiGravityFox Featured By Owner Dec 10, 2013  Student General Artist
THANK YOU, SOMEONE FINALLY SAYS IT. 

I've incorrectly assumed things about myself as we all have, I kept thinking I was bipolar or had some major social anxiety, but once the diagnosis was actually clear (Aspergers), I could finally stop mislabeling these things. I hate when people use these terms loosely and assume that "I'M AN INDIVIDUAL SO IM BETTER THEN EVERYONE HERE AND MY PROBLEMS ARE BETTER THAN EVERYONE ELSES NO MATTER IF THEY'RE REAL OR NOT"

It may have been just a rant journal, but damn it's nice to finally see someone else thinking the same thing.  And I really hope you feel better soon, it can be hard dealing with moronic people, but I truly hope you feel better soon.
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hoz-boz Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
I really agree with you EmptyShadow~ I've had to deal with people like this my whole life where they use terms like this lightly and fling it about like its nothing, using terms in quite offensive contexts. I do wish sometimes that people didn't do this but they do...a lot. 
A lot of the things people fling about, should be kept to themselves, not being cruel, but its information between close family and doctors.

Thank you for writing this~ 
Huggle! 
Its good to get out of your system.

[Sorry I have to work with a mouse pad]
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DiniZee Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
i cant agree more
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EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2013
*thumbs up* 
Thanks for reading 
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DiniZee Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
no problem!

as for me, ive had many moments of feeling sad and dull and being a little anti social, im always confused whether if i ever had some real problems. my friends would tell me to go talk to a doctor about it. i never really got the chance to though. but after reading what u wrote, it made it really clear, and it somehow also explain what ive been feeling annoyed about from people i know for so long now. i really can relate to what your trying to tell us, and im also really glad you wrote it.
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EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2013
That's great, I'm glad that you were able to relate to it. It's a very frustrating thing and I was worried that I may not convey that properly on this journal. 
Hope everything goes well for you on your side. 
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DiniZee Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2013  Hobbyist Artist
thanks, and yeah i understand what you mean.
i also hope things go well on your side too
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5urroundedByRainbow5 Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
THANK. YOU!
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EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2013
Thanks for reading 
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Nephsech Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2013  Student Digital Artist
I think if you feel you need to label yourself with a condition, you may want to consider getting it diagnosed otherwise it can't be that serious... (I understand if you're in america etc and don't have the funds for it though)
I was diagnosed with co-morbid depression (caused by high anxiety disorder)
Ive never posted about it, on a journal or tumblr etc and I dont really care if people say 'I have anxiety disorder!' I just think 'oh well thats bad for you I hope you can work through that.'
I dont want or need people i dont know in person giving me sympathy.
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