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as for me, ive had many moments of feeling sad and dull and being a little anti social, im always confused whether if i ever had some real problems. my friends would tell me to go talk to a doctor about it. i never really got the chance to though. but after reading what u wrote, it made it really clear, and it somehow also explain what ive been feeling annoyed about from people i know for so long now. i really can relate to what your trying to tell us, and im also really glad you wrote it.
I was diagnosed with co-morbid depression (caused by high anxiety disorder)
Ive never posted about it, on a journal or tumblr etc and I dont really care if people say 'I have anxiety disorder!' I just think 'oh well thats bad for you I hope you can work through that.'
I dont want or need people i dont know in person giving me sympathy.
I'm also very trypanophobic so I understand.
I went to counseling for it for six months and it still didn't help.
My doctor even said "You definately have a phobia of needles."
I hate it when people treat me like a whimp because of it or tell me to just "get over it"
Phobia has started to become a term that people just use randomly for everything without even knowing fully what it means. >_> This makes it extra hard for those who have real phobias to get taken seriously 'cause everyone's like "Yeah I totally have a phobia of that too, but I don't let it get in the way for me. Stop being such a coward, it's just a phobia.", or even worse: "Oh you have depression? Don't be depressed, cheer up, did something happen today?" I had a friend who reacted like that when I told him I have clinical depression (yes, it is diagnosed by a doctor) and then he got pissed off at me because him just saying "Cheer up" didn't make the problem magically go away.
Exactly. They're just incapable of putting themselves in other people's shoes; "Oh, it's so easy for me to pay attention in class and get good grades, so obviously people ADHD must just be lazy and using their ADHD as an excuse for not trying". And the oh-so-annoying "There are people a lot worse off than you, stop whining so much" to depressed people. Ugh.
Also, regarding the "nothing bad has happened in their lives" part, a lot of people don't seem to realise that just because a person doesn't seem like they have issues, it doesn't necessarily mean that they don't have any issues. Many people who have psychological problems like depression or anorexia and such don't go around telling everyone about it, so people could always have more severe issues than they seem below the surface.
I think people just seriously need to educate themselves about these things instead of just saying these unhelpful and frankly really annoying things to people who have severe problems.
I think the only way to not hate them for it is to keep reminding yourself that they're not doing it to be mean; they just don't know any better. If they had gone through the same shit themselves, chances are they would be a lot more understanding and helpful about it.
Exactly. It's not a goddamn competition, so I don't understand why so many times when people with serious psychological problems like depression or they're going through a difficult time are trying to talk about their problems, other people feel the need to remind them that there's children in Africa who are starving. Of course we should help the kids in Africa and of course they have it bad in ways we can't even imagine, but does that mean that we're not allowed to be depressed? It's like these people are just trying to guilt you into silence or something.
Well, I dare say that if people whine without trying to solve their problems, chances are they've either given up (at which point they of course need immediate psychological help before you do something dangerous), or more often, their problems aren't really that hard and they just like to throw themselves a pity party because they don't get enough attention from people.
Sounds like she has a definite lack of self insight. >_> Unable to put herself in other people's shoes, I guess.
That's exactly what it is. It also works a little bit in the way of something we call "The Jante Law" here in the Nordics, which is basically a collection of unwritten douchey rules that a lot of people live by, and the rules involve stuff like "You are not to think you're anything special", "You are not to think you're better than us", "You are not to think you're as important as us", "You are not to think anyone cares about you", etc. Mostly this term is used when people refuse to acknowledge talent and success, but I think it can be applied here too.
It doesn't help the kid who's crying and it doesn't help the children starving in Africa, all it really does is make one self-righteous person feel superior and important.