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Sometimes it is difficult to realize what we got until we lose it. And for the most of the part, we see what we don’t have.

But sometimes what we don’t have or are not doesn’t always mean a bad thing.

I am not or don’t have a lot of things.

100 things I am not or don’t have
1. I don’t have cancer
2. I am not blind
3. I am not deaf
4. I don’t have physical defects
5. I don’t have psychiatric or psychological problems
6. I am not poor
7. I don’t have careless parents
8. I don’t have allergies
9. I am not ugly
10. I don’t have broken bone(s)
11. I am not always starving
12. I am not spoiled or mischievous
13. I don’t have skin problems
14. I don’t have big relationship problems to deal with
15. I don’t have digestive problems
16. I don’t have depression
17. I don’t have joint problems
18. I don’t have life threatening problems
19. I don’t have divorced parents
20. I don’t have dysfunctional family
21. I don’t have alcoholic parents
22. I don’t have an abusive childhood
23. I am not lonely
24. I don’t live in a cramped house
25. I am not a school drop out
26. I don’t have violent urges
27. I don’t have the need to self mutilate
28. I am not a handicap
29. I am not mute
30. I am not cognitively impaired
31. I don’t have addictions
32. I don’t have seizures
33. I don’t have severe scoliosis
34. I don’t have to deal with paparazzi
35. I don’t have bad reputation
36. I am not home schooled
37. I don’t have severe acne
38. I don’t have neurological problems
39. I don’t have fragile bones and skin
40. I am not a burn victim
41. I am not a rape victim
42. I am not a criminal
43. I don’t have to take medications
44. I am not old
45. I don’t have only couple of months to live
46. I don’t have sexually transmitted diseases or infections
47. I don’t have brain problems
48. I don’t have phobias
49. I am not in a hospital of any kind
50. I am not in a coma
51. I don’t have financial problems
52. I don’t have heart problems
53. I don’t have blood problems
54. I am not paralyzed
55. I don’t have asthma
56. I am not an orphan
57. I am not talentless
58. I am not dead
59. I don’t have suicidal thoughts
60. I don’t have parasites in my body
61. I am not in jail/prison
62. I don’t have emotional problems
63. I don’t have emotional/nervous breakdown
64. I am not held hostage
65. I don’t have lung cancer
66. I don’t have kidney stones
67. I don’t have brain strokes
68. I don’t have missing limbs
69. I don’t have deceased parents
70. I don’t have traumatic experiences
71. I am not hairy
72. I don’t have sibling rivalry
73. I don’t have eating disorder
74. I don’t have malnutrition
75. I don’t have paranoia
76. I don’t have borderline personality disorder
77. I don’t have Alzheimer’s
78. I don’t have ADD or ADHD
79. I don’t have dyslexia
80. I don’t have strict diet
81. I don’t have low self esteem
82. I am not rejected from a college I wanted to go to
83. I don’t have birth defects
84. I am not hopeless
85. I don’t have abnormal jaws
86. I am not dreamless
87. I am not picked on my others
88. I am not pessimistic
89. I don’t have to live in shame
90. I don’t have careless siblings
91. I don’t have bottled up/hidden feelings
92. I am not obsessive compulsive
93. I don’t have sleeping disorder
94. I don’t have to eat same thing every day
95. I don’t have anxiety disorder
96. I am not a whore or prostitute
97. I don’t have a boring life
98. I am not living in North Korea
99. I am not a scandal victim
100. I don’t have fragile ego

Some of these things are big, and some of them are small. But all these made me realize what I do have, and that I shouldn’t always look at things I wish I had, but also at things that I don’t have that I wish I wouldn’t have. And I’m lucky that I have more than 100 on this list.

I’m grateful for what I already have. And also what I don’t have.
If you can’t find things you have, then look at things you don’t have. Look at things you don’t have that you wouldn’t want to have. Then you would find what you have.
Bad things in life aren’t bad. How you look at or deal with it makes things bad. And there’s always the other side of things. Live a positive life!
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Lock-Nah Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2012
Very well spoke ;)
Birth defects is twice on your list.
XD sorry for being a nit pick .
Djinger Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2011
I am sorounded by people who want to hurt them selfs if they could just see this list right now Lol they might think it over befor thowing them selfs away (%
Lewis-Ag Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2011
A very negative positive outlook on life. I quite like it.
WyzyWhig Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2010
so so wonderfully true :)
PiePirate Featured By Owner May 19, 2010  Professional General Artist
Thank you for reminding me of what I have and what I should be doing with my life.

Thanks for getting me back on track.
modestmango Featured By Owner Dec 11, 2009
When you look at it like that, it's hard to realize how some people can be so miserable.

My life corresponds with this list, like almost exactally, yet I think of my self as an unhappy person?
I should probablly start to think like this.

Your gallery is very thought provoking, in a good way?

EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2009
thank you for sharing your thoughts :meow:
modestmango Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2009
Any time, any time :3
Tool-of-life Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2009
Wow, I was having a bad day and this just brought a smile to my face
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2009
lexakay Featured By Owner Oct 16, 2009
ah you're really lucky =)
i have a few things of the list.. not big things, luckily, but i don't think about them all the time and i try to be happy the way i am ^^
KittyEaredFreak Featured By Owner May 23, 2009  Hobbyist General Artist
Well, this is certainly a healthy way to look at things. ^^

Oddly enough, I spent much of my teenage years mildly depressed because I knew there were so many people out there who do have all these things, and it wasn't because they deserved it more than I did. I felt like I had no right to be happy when so many people weren't. Is that weird? ^^;

I don't really understand why "homeschooled" is on there, though. I am jealous of my homeschooled friends because they are so innocent. They write fairytales about princes and dragons while I write about psychotic drug addicts born of incestuous pedo-rape whose main goal in life is to just stay dead for once. Just recently I tried to create a new universe that would be innocent like my friends' worlds, and already it includes cannibalism and mass homicide. x_x

Heheh, now I am complaining, which is just the opposite of your purpose in writing this! Sorry, sorry! ^^;
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner May 23, 2009
Hmm well I understand. Someone I know kind of feels the same, and sometimes I feel a bit guilty too for being able to smile while others can't. But you know, it isn't my fault, but I guess I shouldn't try to shove it in their face or whatnot.

I guess I put "homeschool" there as my point of view. In my opinion if you are homeschooled you will not get a chance to socially interact with different kinds of people you usually do in public school (or private). Not saying all homeschooled people are like that but you gain some and you lose some in both ways d:

thanks for reading (:
unBeautifulCreature Featured By Owner Mar 4, 2009
Wuhu, I do have 15 of those things listed above. :P And they're not really positive... But I tried to pull out positive things from the things I have. So it made me think.
Well I had to do a similar thing in my therapy some years ago, where I had to cognitively turn bad feelings into positive feelings.
TokiCrafts Featured By Owner Feb 22, 2009
some of them I have but I'm still grateful for every good thing I have and the bad things I don't have !
Thank you for sharing this <3 it gave me a new prescriptive on life in general.
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2009
:hug: <:
Raindroplover Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2008
You're right.
KNKL Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2008
You are awesome.
StarvingFartist Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2008  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Wow. Alot of this stuff i dont have either! :D
Or atleast any Im not aware of yet. Except the hairy thing. o3o And some of the other small things. :3
This makes me happy. I should make one of my own to look at. XD
I love this!
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Nov 18, 2008
that's good :hug:
Happieh Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2008
i read the first twenty, realized i have a lot of those
so that got me down and i don't want to read more
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2008
Perhaps you should focus less on my list and more on the rest of the text
Ankh-of-chiaroscuro Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2008
Your list made me smile. When I'm feeling sad, I try to remind myself of these sorts of things. I try to stay as positive as possible.
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2008
EmmEmperor Featured By Owner Sep 28, 2008  Hobbyist General Artist
People tend to see only what they don't have and what others have that they want too. This List helped me realise that I have a lot more things that I like to have and thinks I'm glad I don't have. Life could be so muchharder than it is and right now I'm so happy for what I have. Even if some things on your list dosen't go for me, I'm still happy that you helped me open my eyes more then they alread were.

You don't write so much, but what you write is of the highest quality and always means something/ open up others eyes. Keep on going with the quality befor quntity! : )
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Sep 28, 2008
Thank you so much for your kind words c:
I'm glad this became a help
EmmEmperor Featured By Owner Sep 28, 2008  Hobbyist General Artist
You're so welcome ^^
It really did. ^^
Vanished-shadow Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2008
LULZ. I wish I wasn't hairy XD XD But nah it's all good.
This is a very good way to look at things! Thanks for pointing this out.. because too often now you see people moaning about how they are so hard done by, when in reality- they are pretty well off.

And what I've often found is that the more you have the more you complain. For example, one of my mates parents were still together, she lived in a very nice house with a pool, she had a dog that she wanted and she came home every night to a safe and secure house, but everyday she would come to school and complain about something, even if it were just about how sore her feet were.. But then there was someone else. Her parents were divorced and they lived in seperate houses, her mother had mental problems and her father wasn't supportive for her what so ever, her house was pretty rough and her father made her pay for everything including shoes and clothes. She'd often come to school with no food and stuff because her father had spent all his money on beer and she had no money left to pay for anything to eat for the day.
But she didn't complain. Not once.
Sorry for the novel length post by the way ^^;
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Nov 3, 2008
Sorry for the late reply. I think I accidentally deleted it ._.
anyway yeah people seem to be less aware when they are in better conditions.
I can't really blame them for it though, it's just hard to see D:

thanks for sharing your story :hug:
Vanished-shadow Featured By Owner Nov 13, 2008
That's fine 8D :D
Yeah, that is really true :)
No problem! Anytime xP You're an artist who I really respect, and thank you for taking the time to reply! 8D
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Nov 14, 2008
No problem, and thanks again xD
GuestMonday Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2008  Student General Artist
thank you for making my day.
alfadarkwolf13 Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2008  Hobbyist Traditional Artist made me feel like i waz which im confused.....but friends have been tryin to tell me that too, but i didnt listen, i only paid attention to yours because u good at animed art
dynamo5 Featured By Owner Sep 1, 2008  Hobbyist
yays~ I dont have most things that you dont as well *which is..really good, since alot things to have there is pretty bad :(* hmm...wonder why this didnt show up in my DA watch? ohwells.
Professor-Vicodin Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2008  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah but it's horrible to read this and see how many messed up things you do have in anothers point of view.
StyxM Featured By Owner Aug 14, 2008
good for you! :)
Kidorkman Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2008
That's a great outlook! I'm glad you can list so many things.

By the way, I counted 33 things that I have on your list. I guess I need to be even more positive, eh? ^_^;

I don't know.
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2008
Well I'm sure you can make your own list
and there would be couple of things I might have >.>

nobody knows d:
Kidorkman Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2008
You're right. Maybe I should. It might be fun. ^_^
xGreyEyesx Featured By Owner Aug 4, 2008
That's such a wonderful way to look at life! People always think about the wonderful over rated things they don't have and not about the horrible things they should be glad they don't have. That is a much better way to look at "I don't have"s :)
TheBlackApostole Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2008  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Samara-make-a-scene Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2008
The message that is in this is beautiful. :']

I'm happy you don't have those things. : D
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2008
thank you c:
Samara-make-a-scene Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2008
ahh' your welcomee :]

i ♥s all your work. :3
Stitched-Happiness Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2008
it makes me happy that you've taken the time to let the world know how ahead you are in life
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2008
Kinomaruu Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2008
Wow....this makes me feel a bit depressed... I read through your whole list and was sad to find there was a lot I do have that I dont want to have...but your list has also motivated me to try and make a longer list for myself of things I dont have that I dont want... I'm going to try really hard!

(and maybe steal some of the things you listed that I DONT have... >.>;)
EmptyShadow Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2008
You scared me, I wouldn't want this to make people sad.
But glad this helped you as well xD
Kinomaruu Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2008
Ah, I'm touched that you worried. With my friend's help (and by using your list) we could come up with a few more. Doing so put me in a much better mood. ^^
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